Friendship

Kindly requested by a friend , you know who you are :P

The question is, Why?

Why seek out the companionship of others when, at times solitude is much more convenient, and less demanding of our time?

Yet some choose the path of the recluse and others seem to mingle, unbridled by inhibition, as a pack animal would. Instinct drives us, to seek out the acknowledgement of others of our kind.

Friendship, true friendship,( and the seeking thereof) is fundamentally an issue of individual moral fibre.

This brings me to my next point.

The maintenance of friendships, hell, ANY relationship is no doubt  an exhaustive and draining process, that continues to wear on your nerves for the duration of the relationship.( and if this doesn’t sound like any of your friendships, then your one lucky duck.) No relationship is ideal, and if it is, you’re either fooling yourself or it’s simply not real. But it all comes down to the worth we place on ourselves and each other, the VALUE that the individual presents to you.

Some disregard friendship as nothing but an aesthetic accessory, a trophy that reflects their own selfish personal image. Kind of like saying “hey!...look what I can get”. These treat others merely as an extension of themselves, having no meaning outside of this function of being their friend. But this is an extreme case.

On the other end of the spectrum of extremes, there are those who endeavour to empathise with others to an extent where it becomes their all-consuming passion, these are the loyal dogs. They seem to be able to read your mind, because they relate to you in every possible aspect.                           

We have the in-betweeners of course, they tend to lean more to complacence rather than out rightly defying either extreme, they are the epitome of indifference. In simpler terms: they just don’t give a damn.                                                               

Indifference is a pestilence; it is the rival of all that is action and ambition. It is a lack of choosing anything definite. Here is where the danger lies within relationships (friendship in this case) it is not familiarity, but indifference that breeds contempt, a trait often seen among those with a dependant/co-dependant personality type. Familiarity, along with patience (A LOT of it) breeds understanding.  

It is up to the individual to decide whether or not companionship is worth the effort of going the mile.         

Keep in mind that the reaction of others depends partly on the action you take toward them. The pattern of anyone’s fate is only partly contrived by the individual. But within that small slither of possibility, it is up to you to decide what to make of it in the end. Are you going to dismiss others coldly as nothing but passing scenery?...Are you going to frustrate the efforts of others by falling into indifference …Could you see reality through their eyes in an effort to understand your fellow man?… Could some small part of you be devoted to something other than yourself?

With all my love

TheChimera